I've been seeing so many videos lately on the newest trends within the beauty industry, and I really needed to open up the conversation with you. There are some things that I can't believe is the new norm, while there are other things that I question why I feel the need to part take it. What does it say about us and the narrative we carry about ourselves? But also, where do we draw the line of just wanting to feel good in our skin vs seeking outwardly approval. We talk allllll about this in today's episode!
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I've been seeing so many videos lately on the newest trends within the beauty industry, and I really needed to open up the conversation with you. There are some things that I can't believe is the new norm, while there are other things that I question why I feel the need to part take it. What does it say about us and the narrative we carry about ourselves? But also, where do we draw the line of just wanting to feel good in our skin vs seeking outwardly approval. We talk allllll about this in today's episode!
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Follow us on Insta: @loveyourbodynow.podcast
The way that we portray beauty is so specific, like there are so such specific features that we think we need in order to be like the optimal, most beautiful person. Welcome to the Love your Body Now podcast, the podcast for women who are ready to feel confident in their body right now and redefine what health looks like for them. I'm Savannah, your host, and together we'll be having conversations about what it means to accept and love our bodies now, while simultaneously prioritizing our health journey. We'll be debunking beliefs that do not serve us and diving into misconceptions and unhealthy narratives in the fitness world, so that we can rebuild our foundation from a place of self-love. Hello, welcome back to the Love your Body Now podcast. If you are a regular listener, thank you so much for following along on this podcast. I appreciate your support so much and if you are new here, welcome.
Speaker 1:I'm so excited for you to tune into today's episode, and today we are talking all about the beauty industry, so it's a lot of along the lines of what we talk about on the podcast, obviously coming from a place of like loving who you are right now. Obviously, with this podcast, we specifically tie that into health and fitness and what that looks like in the fitness industry and how diet industry affects it. But today I wanted to just like have a conversation about the beauty industry and the standards out there and I don't know like. I just want to share my thoughts and I would love to hear your thoughts because sometimes I wonder if I'm the only one who like actually sees this stuff because it's so normalized and, honestly, like the same goes for the fitness industry. There's a lot that is normalized that when you actually start to think about it and question it and wonder where it came from, some of it's like pretty fucked up, and I'm sure that there's plenty of things that we can talk about within the beauty industry. But I wanted to talk about it and I also wanted to somewhat like touch on the psychology of it and like just our human nature in general, how it affects it, because I listened to this podcast episode.
Speaker 1:It was a while ago that I listened to it and it's what sparked this idea of this topic, which then I like never got around to recording the topic, so it's not fresh in my brain, but I am and I regularly use TikTok. I don't know what your social media like choices on the regular, but TikTok, I love TikTok and a side note, where I work right now currently I had said something about TikTok and my boss like chimed in and was like, oh, that platform is so immature, blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, okay, I mean, yeah, it can be, I won't lie, it can be immature, but also you can get so much value on TikTok and TikTok. I'm pretty sure I saw a like statistic now that TikTok is like the leading SEO platform out of everything, which is a big deal Like more people are going to TikTok to ask their questions as opposed to going to Google or going to YouTube and asking specific questions, they go to TikTok, which is also what I do as well. So, anyways, that's a side note. But I've been on TikTok and sometimes the algorithm will show me stuff that is just like I really don't feel like it's meant for me, like if I'm making that conscious choice of saying, oh, the algorithm, I don't know why it's showing me this, because this isn't something I would like, but sometimes I watch it anyways to kind of like analyze the persona of who fits that algorithm, if that makes sense, and that's probably why TikTok continues to show me stuff like that sometimes.
Speaker 1:But I specifically saw this video today of this woman and I see this all the time with, like women who are regularly now like going to get lip fellers or Botox, like things like that, which never, as a kid, like those weren't things that I was like, oh yeah, like that's a normal thing that women do to like enhance their beauty or whatever. Like it wasn't. To me that seemed like something like only really wealthy people would do. And now it's gotten to a point where, like women my age, like super young, are, I guess, able to afford it. I mean, I still think it's probably kind of expensive, but it's affordable at this point, it's not cheap and are regularly going and doing this. I see it all the time.
Speaker 1:And I saw this video today and it was just like it kind of like re-sparked this topic and I was like you know what I need to talk about this, of this girl who was she made this video and it's of her in the beginning and it's like playing to music and there's just like a caption like written in front of her saying something like oh I, this is like the best decision that I did for myself or something like along the lines of that. So you're just like watching her and she's just like sitting there smiling at the camera while you're reading this caption, and you know, as she's doing that, she's kind of like playing with her hair a little bit not like playing with it, but just like moving it around a little bit and she, you know, tucks her hair behind her ears or whatever. And I didn't think of anything of it. I was just like what is? What am I watching?
Speaker 1:And then it switches to a new clip of her showing she's like pulling her hair up in a ponytail so you can see her ears, and then she's like kind of like turning her head to the side a little bit and I'm like, wait, what? So I re-watched it and it's you can. So she basically got I don't even know what you call it, but like her ears no longer stuck out, which they didn't stick out bad before, I mean. So that's why she put her hair behind her ears so you could see her ears, and they kind of like stick out a little bit. Well then, in this second clip it shows that she turns her ears like so you can see them from the back, and the ears are like closer to her head.
Speaker 1:And I was like what, like that is a, that's a thing, and so I always I very frequently look at the comments to videos because I want to see what other people think, and it was like a bunch of women who were like, oh my gosh, now I need to get it. Oh my gosh, like you look amazing, you're so pretty. Or they're like I didn't even know this was a thing, like I'm going to do this. Or someone else commented oh my gosh, this is my biggest insecurity, and it just was something that I was like I can't believe that we are so like, we are so normalized or I don't I didn't even know what the right way to say this, but like, the way that we portray beauty is so specific, like there are so such specific features that we think we need in order to be, like, the optimal most beautiful person. And it's just kind of mind blowing to me because, for one, I'm like who wrote the rules on this? Like, why is this? Like it's so sad that the beauty industry is so good at its job in marketing that we would actually pay.
Speaker 1:And this is the other thing the girl. There was one girl that asked her how much it was because she's considering doing it and the girl commented that it was whatever surgeon she went to, it costs like $8,300. So over $8,000 to make her ears closer to her head. And I'm like in awe, I'm just like that's so wild that and I don't don't mean this to sound like I'm not trying to like I'm not compassionate or you know, like not trying to understand her point of view, whatever but it's like how have we like gotten to this point where we have like such a big insecurity because we've bought into this idea of what society says is beautiful, that we believe it and we believe that there's something not beautiful about ourselves, about our physical appearance, that we feel the need to like go out and change it like that drastically?
Speaker 1:And I don't I don't have an answer of like where do you draw the line with this? Because if you think about it, I think about how I got a lot of money done to, or there was a lot of money spent to, fix my teeth. My teeth were crooked for a little bit and I got a invisible line. We think about how women go and get their hair done and that's a lot of upkeep and maintenance and costly, or going to do regularly tanning and it's kind of like, at what point do we draw the line? Because here I am sitting and watching this girl do this and trying not to be judgmental, but I can't help but judge the situation because I'm just very analytical like that. I just want to understand and I just have a lot of questions with everything and I feel like I question everything. It's kind of like I'm sitting there being like how this woman's beautiful she's gorgeous and I'm like that wouldn't even be something that I would have even saw as a flaw Yet this woman, who's so beautiful to the beauty standards in my opinion finds something that's wrong with her and ends up paying her money back into the beauty industry, where they sell us these things of.
Speaker 1:You need to feel insecure about this and this is how you should look. They sell this idea of what beauty has to be and what it is so that we continue to pay into it and buy into it, so that we can continue to morph ourselves into feeling more beautiful on the outside. But that was the podcast that I listened to a while back. She was talking about that too. Where it's like, but where's the line? Because are we supposed to feel bad for wanting to go and get our hair done. Are we supposed to feel bad for wanting to go and get our nails done? At what point do you draw the line and say, okay, this is getting to be really bad? And they actually started to talk about the psychology of human behavior a little bit and analyzed past generations, how wealth and your appearance are tied together.
Speaker 1:We know that as humans, it's our natural instincts to want to fit in, because when you think back to when we were in tribes or we were in our tribal era or when there were a lot of countries who maybe weren't, there's a lot of wars going on because countries or not even countries, but territories are trying to take over other territories. That was just our natural way of living. So it was super important to fit in with the group or the tribe that you were in, because if you got shunned or if you got kicked out or if whatever happened where you weren't be able to be within your tribe anymore, that was basically like life or death. That's why we're still like that today, where it can be a really big struggle of not fitting in with people, why it can be really hard to go against the status quo or the group that we're surrounded by and we're constantly in that environment, because it's such a natural instinct, because it's like a survival instinct.
Speaker 1:Obviously, today it's not as big of a deal in some instances, but when it came to looking back at, let's say, like queens and kings, that they dressed a certain way or they wore their hair a certain way, it was directly tied to their wealth and their wealth can afford them these things. Basically that becomes the standard, like everyone wants, what the wealthy can have, and it shifts throughout the generations and throughout the ages. So, for example, that's way back when, that's how they did things. But then you think about the Marilyn Monroe era and her body type and that standard, that sort of shifted the standard. And even when you think about medieval, whatever era, like times back then when if you didn't have money and you were very poor, obviously you were very skinny, like you're not going to have a lot of food, so a lot of those wealthier people, they may have been a little bit bigger and that again was directly tied to they have wealth. So it was actually seen as like a good thing, or like people wanted that because it meant that they had money.
Speaker 1:And when you think about like today and this was talked about in the podcast was they talked about the Kardashians and how the Kardashians have sort of set the new trend for the beauty industry and basically what it is is the plastic surgery? Right, for a long time no one can afford those things. Kind of like I said at the beginning of this episode, where I didn't even you know, like Botox and lip fillers and like plastic surgery in general, just like doing those things for a long time people in the middle class like can't afford those things, like it just was ridiculously expensive. And now it's like gotten to the point where we can just barely afford it. Right, like it's still expensive but it is something we could potentially afford. And now that's like what everyone is trying to do and strive for, because those have been the new beauty industry standards that have been set and it's almost like always set by a wealthier group and has to be like unattainable for a certain period of time before the rest of us can get it.
Speaker 1:And it's crazy because like again, it's like where do you draw the line with it? Because at some level, it's our instincts and it's our natural, what like we are designed to do, which is to fit in and to want to, you know, be light and to want to be beautiful, because beautiful is correlated to wealth and wealth obviously means you're, like taken care of. So when you start to look at it from a human, behavioral like standpoint, it's very interesting and it does make you wonder about the beauty industry. And what? At what point are we doing it for others, as opposed to maybe doing it for ourselves? Or are we doing it for ourselves? Because is that just like a lie we tell ourselves? You know, like it's really hard to like figure that out about yourself, because if we want to be more beautiful and appear more beautiful to others, therefore be like have approval of others, because, again, our instincts say that we want to fit in, because our natural instincts say that this is like survival mode or not survival mode, but like life or death. It's really hard to kind of understand that and Sometimes I don't know like I don't know, and it's like how much, like even when we go into how much we actually invest in our overall appearance.
Speaker 1:It's kind of crazy how much we actually do that and to kind of reflect on it and say what is this all for? Like is this actually self-care or is this something that I'm doing to win over the approval of everyone else, because I feel like that makes me feel better about myself? So I don't really have an answer. I just again I wanted to have a conversation about it because I have a really hard time buying into some of it, especially when I see it on TikTok of like girls getting lip fillers. Like that is a super like.
Speaker 1:I see that all the time and maybe it's just on my algorithm, but I see it all the time and I don't know what to think about it. Like I can never, I can't see myself ever doing something like that, because I'm like they're literally shooting up your lips with like stuff. I don't know, that just seems so weird to me and it almost is like, but then you know. But then I think but I have tattoos, so like who am I to? Like say you know, like I'm getting literal ink in my skin and like how can I be one to say like, oh my gosh, like why are people doing that? That's insane. But then here I am, like getting tattoos and stuff and I don't know. It's just like crazy. Because you go to like point the finger at the beauty industry for one second and then there's, like you know the saying. There's like four other fingers pointing back at you, but like for real, like then you're like, but I guess I do this and I do this and I do this, and it's like I never even thought to question that or, like, really think about it and wonder why I feel the need to do that, like why it's so important to me.
Speaker 1:So I would love to hear your thoughts on this and anything that I didn't bring up or that, like I mentioned and you thought about it. I'm so curious to hear what you have to say. So feel free to DM me and let me know your thoughts. Again, as always, if you have an episode that you want to recommend a topic on, please let me know. I love doing topics that are going to be helpful to you. So I have some a side note. I have some other things that I really want to share with you soon. I hope that I'll be able to share with you soon. So stay tuned. In the coming months, hopefully, I will be able to share with you what's kind of been going on in my life, a little behind the scenes type of stuff. So stay tuned for that and, as always, I will chat with you next week. Have a good day.
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